Tuesday, September 1, 2009

He calls me Friend

My hubby has had the same best friend since kindergarten. I could talk on and on about their friendship because I think it is simply amazing. Over 30+ years those two have been buddies. Their friendship has seen many different ups and downs, but they have always been there for each other. I remember early in our marriage how Hubby would stay up late, talking to his friend on the phone. I also remember times I would go to bed early when Brother was a baby, only to wake up for the next feeding to find hubby and his friend on the phone. (Just think of how much sleep I could have gotten if I formula fed since he was still up.)
Recently, their friendship has taken a change. The guys are both very busy with their jobs and hubby's friend has a new baby at home. So, their communication has been reduced to text messages, facebook, and brief phone calls during the commute to and from work. I hope this is just a phase in their friendship because my hubby needs to spend more time communicating with his friend. He needs to talk openly with the person who knows all about him. He needs to spend time with the friend who knows his past, present, and his future dreams -- and quite honestly, I'm not always the best person for all that talking. You know, guys need other guys. People who won't get all emotional on them when they just need to "talk it out." And friendship needs more than 120 character updates and brief phone calls.
I've been a bit introspective the past few days. It's been an interesting time for me. I've thought a lot about God - His will, His plan, and my purpose. I can't say I have any answers - in fact, I may have more questions than when I started. Do you have periods of your life where you just need to think it over? How do you make time for that? I get frustrated because I still have my wife and mom duties, and I feel like I'm unable to freely commit to "be still and know." Instead, I feel like I come to God and say, "Okay, I have a few minutes. Can you meet with me?" Or worse, I feel like my life is like a TV program, and I try to deal with God during the commercial breaks.
Not so productive!
I just feel like we need to have a long time visit and instead we just touch the highlights throughout the day. Just like hubby, I need to spend more time communicating with my Friend. I need to talk openly with The One who knows all about me. I need to spend time with The One who knows my past, present, and my future dreams. I need more than the brief times of prayer, meditation, or scripture reading (not all at once).
I'm working on it. I've taken more time the past week, and yet I still hunger for more.

It is a new place for me, but it feels good.

Matthew 11:28-30 (The Message)
"Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you'll recover your life. I'll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won't lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you'll learn to live freely and lightly."


  1. Very good words. I love that your husband has such a kindred spirit in another man...that's awesome. He's very very fortunate.

  2. I struggle with "being still", and many times it shows.

  3. It sounds like you're in a good place. I liked reading about your desire to spend more time with your Friend. I'm sure HE delights in that, too.

    I'm glad your husband has such a good friend and that you encourage that friendship rather than feel threatened by it. I think sometimes women don't realize that it's difficult for guys to have that kind of friendship and we should foster those relationships in our husbands.


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